Fate

"Fate is something least unexpected in the most unexpected situations"

Dear mummy,

I have a feeling you have sent a group of people to prove to me that life s worth living.

It s your way of telling me that life s great, isnt it? especially so for the unexpected people you will meet unexpectedly.

Fate has its way of leading me to them, and you are the one who brought fate to me.

Many of us have been to many trips, been to many tours with tour groups.

But how many of us have come back as great friends with the friendships growing so much so that they are going out of control when they are back.

I have. And let me tell you, it s an amazing feeling. Nothing I have expected.

My feeling after my Tibet trip was that, it was quite boring ,for all we did was visited temples and more than often I am just monkey do monkey say, not really understanding most of the things I did. The things I enjoyed most was the nights when a group will come to our room and we will chat and play.

And the final realization I got was, it must be fate s way of leading them to me. What matters was not then, but the future it brought.

We do crazy stuff, mostly impromptu. Late night suppers at the last minute, visit to Night Safaris, cleaning elderly home, volunteering at tsa tsa making (buddhist offering), organising charity dinner, drinking, singing, dancing, msning and suaning etc.

Two months seems like two years. Unbelievable.

How long will the two years last? I do not know. As they said like fireworks, it s beautiful but it s short lived. Will our friendships continue to grow and bloom? Or can our efforts and common interests make it into wine which will become better with age.

Something is drawing us together v closely and I believe there s a reason for it.

No matter what, like what my friend has said, who cares what the future will bring as long as we treasure each moment we have each other now.

Live each moment to the fullest. Be yourself and embrace all.

Just like we know we are going to die one day, but we still live each day beautifully.

Trust me, it s a great feeling. The feeling of life.

So when fate comes along, hold on to it for as long as possible and let it go when it s time.

I believe in fate. Do you?

Love,
Agnes

P.S: Thanks guys for all the great wonderful memories! I am sure there s more to go. Cant wait to create more =P

Don't ask why. Just do it!

"Don't ask why. Just do it!" by Dr Timothy Sim

Dear Mummy,

Belated Happy Birthday! Seems like I am always late in wishing you happy birthday..haha..but well it s always better to be late than never

My wish for you is that you have already ended your suffering and have reached nirvana where peace may be with you at all times. I know you already have.

Just to share a little bit of what my tutor, Dr Timothy Sim has shared with me and class the other day.


Here goes the little thought provoking story:

Dr Sim has a friend in university who somehow injured himself one day. Being a very concerned friend, Dr Sim quickly ran over to his friend's side. And the first question was : Why did you injure yourself? How did it happen? Why like this? while blood dripped profusely down from his friend's hand.

The immediate reaction from his friend was a furious roar: " Can you please stop asking why? And do sth to my hand?"

Pushing his limits, Dr Sim rebutted and asked " Why are you so furious??"

And without further elaborating, you should know what s the next reaction coming from his friend.

Haha, a funny little inspiring story which jolted me to my senses somehow. We people tend to ask too much whys, and dont do anything about the whys. Linking back to how we were brought up, Dr Sim attributed his behaviour to his upbringing and similarly to quite a number of people.

When a child falls, what the mother would usually do and say would be " Why did you fall down?? Stoopid Stoopid!" and hits the child instead of asking " Are you alright?"

This brings us to the question of whether the reason of happening is that important since that it has already happened, why don't we just do sth about it first before thinking of why.

He furthers talked about introspection and people who are in depression. For they keep introspect themselves and keep asking why which is the main reason for their depression. They lack the courage to change the things they can and the wisdom to accept those things they cant and hence they keep asking themselves why they cant do this, why are they like this etc.

Coincidentally on the day which Dr Sim shared this ancedote, I wrote a list of whys. Why cant I let go? Why am I like this...etc? It quickly brought to my mind that I may be suffering from depression haha..and that quickly reminded me not to ask too much whys and that my unhappiness all these while is related to my "whys" problem.

And so my friend, my new quote in life is " Don't ask why. Just do it"

Whenever you are feeling puzzled over sth, try not to ask too many whys, and think of ways to solve the doubt or problem. Think it will help much better which I am doing right now.

Making an effort to change my thinking and lifestyle. Towards my goal.

Love,
Agnes